Relationships represents the most challenging situation humanity has to face as it is part of the proof of the mind's evolution in this specific area.
Welcome to my first post ! Thank you for reading that post. As a few writers/bloggers I intend to reflect what I've learned during my journey here in this country. Not easy to believe but I am one of those guys who was this close to lose his mind for a woman. Love, yes Love or I'll say i thought it was love.
My first statement : " Don't ever consider failure as failure, it is instead an opportunity to show you that you were wrong on your prime perception on the order all the elements/feelings that humanity or us human are living with, these element called feelings" . Yes, weird way to describe them but it is true. My experiences led me to a divorce in the past because of a total divergence of personalities, every solutions were just temporary, rupture was the only one left. Well ... Fast forward >>> .
It is so interesting to realize the power that a man or a woman can possess, more like when you are in a coma or in Limbo state and then you just tell to yourself that it's not your time to give up; that the same way your mind did put you in that mid-universe between paradise/hell and life but you fought to wake up and decide to create a new universe, a 4th one. The one where your faith is amplified exponentially, this one where you remembered who you are, the success that you had in the past and also what you can do or make happen in the present that will sure guarantee a prosperous future.
Love vs Relationships .-
“Do you know how to love ? Do you really love ... as you say you do ?”
What are the requirements to love ? Yes I say Love... A very important majority of individual tend to be confused about their conception about " Loving ". It's not because your heart beats fast when you see her/him that defines you feelings as LOVE ! no ... You need to be sure first on different criteria :
1.- Love yourself
2.- Be sure that you are not superficially attracted to some one ( Love & attraction are 2 different concepts but are the same family)
3.- Be sure that you are ready ( Relationships are always smooth at the beginning but remember that controversies and difficulties are part of the balance )
4.- Don't get it twisted !!! Sex and love are not the same ( being attracted or being in a relationship just for sex is not a guarantee for a sustainable relationship)
5.- Don't Judge the book by its cover, " She/he might not be beautiful/handsome on the outside, but the intrinsic values and some specific actions define who the person is. " Appearances can fool you, remember that.
Forgetting your self " A BIG MISTAKE " .-
This is where creativity and faith play the most important role in giving your self some love. People tend to lose control of their emotions to hurt others, some don't mean to hurt anybody else but them selves. How ??? You are a successful asset for an international company and making thousands and thousands of dollars per year , hmmm! or let say you reasonably earning a good salary, you have some good relations, a humble life, but then one day controversies of life draw you down to bankruptcy. The same period, as believer in Love... you fall for someone and had to live a transition of your life where you had to adapt yourself to a new situation, a new life where your financial vulnerability could easily affect your state of mind ... Worst situation ever, that someone ends up to act differently with you because of past mistakes that were apparently fixed. You became even suicidal just because you lost total control of the relationship, You want this good life, this love back. Your partner was becoming worst everyday, and you ? Begging for what ? Fixing the relationship.
Never try to fix when there is no HOPE ! You might be a man/woman of God but trust me if your belief is different from your partner's, failure will be eminent. Yes Belief ! I said ... the only way you can get yourself out of that hole of desperation. How to overcome that situation ?
Many motivational speakers tell you to focus, or to take control of your mind, to remember who you are etc. I'll say :
1.- Pray (with your heart, all your soul, and with your mind all focused on GOD !
2.- You can do better, Change your habits, do new things in your life ( Work out, Jog, Read books or Listen to audible, get out), sometimes running for a relationship isn't the solution, you will suffer out of it, All you need is to get yourself ready and seek closure.
My Story
“ I have learned to outsmart my mind and reinvented my circle of life.”
Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes several times... what imports is you have to be conscious of your mistake, face the consequences and seek for forgiveness. If it doesn't work then you would have to move on according to what you have learned from it. Some people tend to erase the concept of forgiveness in this specific cortex of their mind, and focus more on hitting back which will lead them to carelessness, hate, anger, bitterness. You can't accept to live with someone like that, because at a certain level it is hard to enlighten that individual that this is the wrong thing to do. This will surely affect you and if you don't know how to control your own mind, you will fail yourself; Outsmarting your mind is this ability to seize the 5 seconds window between the feelings coming from your prefrontal lobe and what your heart tells you to do, so you can take the right decision thinking about the future you could have or create for yourself.
Love yourself
I wont say that much for a starter, ... Love yourself and always, always do what's good for you and your family. Your family ( husband/wife, kids ) is always you, it's your reality. You get married because you want, and marriage life becomes your reality and your own world. So it is when you are single, you are your own world. Be wise in taking any decision that could change it.
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